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Saturday, January 20, 2018

With Love for Books Second Anniversary - Guest Post & Giveaway by Katie Oliver


In Pursuit of Positivity
Guest post by Katie Oliver

Positivity is defined as “the practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude.”

Sometimes, finding positivity in our day-to-day lives can present a challenge. Things like traffic, cranky co-workers, and the demands of kids, spouses, and bosses can quickly sabotage our mood and send us into a tailspin of frustration and negativity.

This is especially true for writers. Facing so many rejections and disappointments – perhaps you can’t land an agent, or you can’t get a publisher, or you do get an agent and he/she hates your current project – can leave anyone feeling defeated. Then there are readers’ reviews to contend with.

Not everyone will love your book. Most will like it, some will be indifferent, and some will hate it. And that’s to be expected. Because reading is a very subjective thing, and everyone has an opinion. That’s why positivity is such a helpful thing for a writer to practice. (Along with cultivating a thick skin.)

Remind yourself every day of the positives in your life. Celebrate your achievements, even if the only thing you achieved was making the bed, clearing out the kitchen junk drawer, or going for a twenty-minute walk around the neighborhood. Reward yourself. Feel good about what you managed to do, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant.

Remember: ”Every journey begins with a single step.”

Chances are, once you get in the habit of positive thinking, you’ll begin to realize how much you really have accomplished. You’ll begin to be a little kinder to yourself. Because the fact is, we’re often harder on ourselves than others. We listen to that nasty inner voice in our heads, the one that tells us “you’re fat” or “you’ll never amount to anything” or “no one will ever publish you.” And we believe it.

Don’t! Gently nudge such negative thoughts aside. Better yet, give them a healthy shove. Banish them. Be kind to yourself, just as you would to a friend, and tell yourself that you did it. You rocked it. Pat yourself on the back.

And then? Pay it forward. Offer encouragement to another struggling writer, an exhausted mom, or an overworked store clerk with a warm smile and positive words...

...because a little positivity goes a very long way.

About Katie Oliver


Katie Oliver loves romantic comedies, characters who "meet cute," Richard Curtis films, and Prosecco (not necessarily in that order). She currently resides in South Florida with her husband and two parakeets.

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One very lucky reader of With Love For Books will receive a signed copy of Prada and Prejudice by Katie Oliver and bookmarks.

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28 comments:

  1. Loved reading this! Very good tips. It is so true that often we're not as kind to ourselves as to others. Having fibromyalgia it's easy to think how little I've been able to accomplish, but if I stop to think about it, it's more than I realised. Thank you!! Best wishes for 2018! :)) xx

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  2. Would love to read this and others by this author

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  3. I'm glad you featured this author. Her stories sound wonderful.

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  4. Awesome post and I love that cover!

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  5. Would love to win this book for my Mum who reads a lot.

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  6. would love to win this as it looks like a great book to add to my 2018 reading challenge! plus I love the sound of the storyline!

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  7. Sound really interesting. Love to read

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  8. I love the title of your book and I must say that it sounds like a great read too. I also like your attitude to positivity and shoving negative thoughts aside. :-)

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  9. Love the look and sound of your books. I will definitely be looking to read some x

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  10. Wonderful post, very thought provoking

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  11. Looks like a wonderful book to read!! Thanks for the sweet giveaway! Just found you! Rita Spratlen

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  12. It's true that it can be a struggle to be positive as some days can get you down. I've made it a habit to celebrate my "happy moments" every day and I share them with my best friend (and she's doing the same) - that shared happiness makes this habit even more awesome!

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  13. great giveaway - sounds like a lovely book

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  14. I adore books by KAtie and I can not wait to read this one.

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  15. I love this post, I need to be more positive! I love all the Jane Austen themed books you write!

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  16. Positivity rocks the world! We need more of it. Thank you!

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  17. Great guest post and advice!

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  18. Sending positivity to someone else helps them & you.

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  19. Sounds like a good book. Thank you for the chance xx

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  20. Love reading and will often recommend books I've enjoyed to others. I won't ever say "don't read that, because it's rubbish". It's someone's hard work and even if you don't like the book, others might. Obviously people will tell you that they haven't enjoyed a book, but I give all books a try whether or not people who I usually agree with have hated it, and think that giving a bad review is a bit pointless. If everyone had the same taste in books, life would be boring and everyone would just write the same thing. I enjoy my Kindle because it will recommend authors that I might not have heard of and love discovering new people to read. Sorry for the long essay and the bit of "me me me" in this comment.

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  21. Really interesting guest post, whether you are a writer or not.

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